tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post3716879632198940662..comments2024-02-14T10:20:33.725+00:00Comments on Relatively Retiring: In Appreciation of Sons.Relatively Retiringhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07648407316162715318noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-64198505827985644642012-01-06T09:45:59.592+00:002012-01-06T09:45:59.592+00:00HHnB and Anne: thank you for your comments, and ve...HHnB and Anne: thank you for your comments, and very happy, if slightly belated New Year to you both.<br />I know what you mean, Anne!Relatively Retiringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648407316162715318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-90772291776291293072012-01-04T23:40:32.902+00:002012-01-04T23:40:32.902+00:00Happy New Year, RR. As others have said, a beautif...Happy New Year, RR. As others have said, a beautiful post. My two sons have just been with me, one is still here. Neither of them is an easy person, but both talented and full of ideas, some good, some bad. At the moment I feel too close to their troubles.Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04979547096244105508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-30470590829142608062011-12-25T02:40:51.114+00:002011-12-25T02:40:51.114+00:00Happy Christmas to you dear RR. A peaceful new yea...Happy Christmas to you dear RR. A peaceful new year in 2012 too.herhimnbrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01182397064631016552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-90605113708967338942011-12-23T12:52:35.998+00:002011-12-23T12:52:35.998+00:00Thank you, Frances, and very happy Christmas to yo...Thank you, Frances, and very happy Christmas to you and yours.Relatively Retiringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648407316162715318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-47577816818303224642011-12-22T07:05:56.328+00:002011-12-22T07:05:56.328+00:00This is a beautiful post, Relatively Retiring. Tha...This is a beautiful post, Relatively Retiring. Thank you.Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05588049222095187200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-2914871662357760372011-12-20T19:29:03.587+00:002011-12-20T19:29:03.587+00:00Isabelle: thank you for your kind comment. I hope ...Isabelle: thank you for your kind comment. I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas, including Cassie and Sirius, of course.<br />Firebird: I love it too, and Big Brother's hand is only lightly squeezing Little Brother's neck!Relatively Retiringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648407316162715318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-10279691286157595762011-12-20T17:10:20.034+00:002011-12-20T17:10:20.034+00:00I love that photographI love that photographFire Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13518190677399410354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-65697790284421474832011-12-19T21:10:06.558+00:002011-12-19T21:10:06.558+00:00I quite agree with E's Child - you do have a w...I quite agree with E's Child - you do have a wonderful style and write such dignified and interesting posts. And I do admire the way that you seem to have let them go... which I find so difficult.<br /><br />I know what you mean about children teaching us. I feel that I'm (more or less) an archivist, architect and doctor - without ever having to bother with doing the degrees myself... .Pam https://www.blogger.com/profile/12641269043817163165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-76760514583977174832011-12-19T10:28:12.192+00:002011-12-19T10:28:12.192+00:00Elephant's Child: thank you so much for your v...Elephant's Child: thank you so much for your very generous comment.Relatively Retiringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648407316162715318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-91509428533777944892011-12-19T09:11:15.715+00:002011-12-19T09:11:15.715+00:00I followed you home from Frances' place and ha...I followed you home from Frances' place and have been browsing. I just wanted to say that I find your writing elegant and eloquent, and often very moving. Thank you.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-40560158058320097872011-12-19T09:05:04.716+00:002011-12-19T09:05:04.716+00:00Jee and Jenny: I am well aware of the pitfalls of ...Jee and Jenny: I am well aware of the pitfalls of pronouncing about sons, but that's the way it's been for me, and I've always been aware of how different their thought processes have been from mine.<br />Being with one's adult children is wonderful. They are so much more grown up and experienced than I can ever be.Relatively Retiringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648407316162715318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-31855180388917583802011-12-18T22:02:09.420+00:002011-12-18T22:02:09.420+00:00And daughters!:) I often read those people pronou...And daughters!:) I often read those people pronouncing on parenthood when their kids are still young. You appreciate the extent of them after they have grown up and realise how much they have given you.Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-88103570635109677252011-12-18T10:55:23.224+00:002011-12-18T10:55:23.224+00:00Having worked with boys before I had a daughter, I...Having worked with boys before I had a daughter, I must admit I would have liked a son, but I couldn't wish for a better daughter. She much more girly than I ever was so that was a learning curve for me, too. Husband's relationship with his mother has always been fraught. Your two are lucky to have an understanding mother who knows when to let go - I'm sure they know how loved they are.Jeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14553005051612551946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-90724570220322153242011-12-18T08:54:59.514+00:002011-12-18T08:54:59.514+00:00Zhoen: I don't know of that book, but will loo...Zhoen: I don't know of that book, but will look it up. Thank you.<br />Molly: many thanks, and happy Christmas to you and yours. Yes, the harrowing part takes you to places that you certainly didn't want to go, and I've had many doses of that, too. It might have been tempting to chicken out, but luckily quite impossible!<br />Mrs. A: yes, the constant battles of good and evil, and the striving<br />for super-powers is touching in a way that Barbie and her lifestyle cannot be. But I must not say anything negative about daughters because I have no experience!Relatively Retiringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648407316162715318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-80925076252269827362011-12-18T00:40:55.410+00:002011-12-18T00:40:55.410+00:00Lovely post,I still have my sons old warriors tuck...Lovely post,I still have my sons old warriors tucked in the closet, and his fantasy novels are still on the shelves, he was always organising a battle on his bedroom floor!Mrs Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03109885833512528798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-21792292883992818422011-12-17T19:17:08.073+00:002011-12-17T19:17:08.073+00:00Having three sons myself, I loved this piece. If w...Having three sons myself, I loved this piece. If we had known the extent to which we would be stretched by them, in all the ways you mention, might we not have chickened out at the start? But then we would have missed all those broadening, enriching, and sometimes harrowing experiences.....Merry Chritmas to your sons and their lovely mother!mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797484583400519909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-7229052835156972732011-12-17T18:52:38.567+00:002011-12-17T18:52:38.567+00:00People get the children they need, if they let the...People get the children they need, if they let them be so. <br /><br />You remind me of the book, How big is big? How small is small?Zhoenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03515663141425057088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-47847792853845442112011-12-17T16:54:56.241+00:002011-12-17T16:54:56.241+00:00Leslee: thank you. It's all been the most exha...Leslee: thank you. It's all been the most exhausting, exasperating, wonderful fun.<br /><br />gz: the little chap in the sailor hat will be thirty very soon, and they begin to admit some things now.<br /><br />Marigold - so good to see you back. I think it's a biological necessity that you cannot convey just how stretching it can be!Relatively Retiringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648407316162715318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-12558522292466279672011-12-17T16:01:45.095+00:002011-12-17T16:01:45.095+00:00How lovely this post is. I am not the mother of s...How lovely this post is. I am not the mother of sons but can identify with many of your comments here and I too hope that my daughter will one day realise just how loved she is and that I might also be as wise as you in appreciating her in all her differentness (is that a word?!) to me. Nobody ever said being a mother would be easy but they also didn't say how it would stretch one did they?!Marigold Jamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02895195019277206960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-65717121974611395472011-12-17T15:51:08.562+00:002011-12-17T15:51:08.562+00:00They'll appreciate you- even if they wont alwa...They'll appreciate you- even if they wont always admit it!!gzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08034777779347889773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3430310340733122486.post-15786143772752730392011-12-17T14:59:32.549+00:002011-12-17T14:59:32.549+00:00That's beautiful. I hope they know how lucky t...That's beautiful. I hope they know how lucky they are to have had you for a mom, too! Happy Christmas to you all!Leshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13489924859026895536noreply@blogger.com